Erosion

You won't allow me to reach you
Our relationship has eroded
It can't function the way it did
So with it we must change.
You don't seem to be willing
To change what you're doing
But if I do all the work
Am I selling out?

I can't reach a kid at school. The arrangements that have been put in place for him have served to make matters worse at home and at school. However, he was warned that this would happen. If I alter the deal for the sake of harmony, does that mean "he wins"?